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7 Profound Benefits of Exploring Past Lives for Personal Growth!

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Benefits Of Exploring Past Lives for Personal Growth!

Embarking on a journey into the depths of your soul is a fascinating experience.

Have you ever found yourself pondering the mysteries of your lives?

Wondered about the essence of your existence?

Exploring past lives for personal growth is an intriguing pursuit; however, it’s crucial to remember the significance of the present life.

When we explore past lives we gain awareness of your behavioural patterns from a distance, bringing insights from your soul’s past into the present. At times this makes it easier to truly understand what is happening currently.

Past lives exploration can encourage us to examine aspects of ourselves that we often choose to overlook.

However, I’ve observed many individuals using their interest in past life exploration as a way to avoid taking responsibility for their contributions to their life experiences.

When we explore past lives it is meant to inform and guide us, emphasizing the importance of soul accountability rather than evading self-responsibility.

If you explore past lives, the information should provide insight into your reactions, decision-making, and the dynamics that attract you to specific relationships.

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7 Benefits of Exploring Past Lives for personal Growth!

Personal Reflection: During a session with a client facing emotional challenges, I identified a past life where they had endured horrific long-term abuse. To be honest, most of us have experienced forms of abuse, such as hangings, burning at the stake, or slavery.

In an unexpected response, the client eagerly proclaimed, “I’ve always known I was a victim!” as they sought to affirm a newfound sense of entitlement to justify their self-abusive victimhood.

They used the past life reading as confirmation that this proved their belief they had always been a victim, and had no input into what had been creating the emotional challenges they’d faced. I explained that this wasn’t the case; “its one life and you have experienced many.”

Instead of acknowledging that life and the journey of souls is a complex array of experiences they fixated on their victimhood.

They developed a co-dependency on proving that their soul had been victimized in every life, using this belief to reinforce a sense of victimhood entitlement.

They manipulated others, disguising their actions through a sense of reactive victimhood, which became the root cause of numerous emotional upheavals. Unfortunately, they believed it was justified and they were not responsible for acting out because of all the stored victimisation the client believed they’d endured rendered them a victim to their soul history.

I tried to explain what needed resolving was the attitude toward their victimhood entitlement.

A year later this person returned for another session, demanding I reveal another past life. They complained about the money they spent attending numerous sessions with others providing similar services. They had been on the chase, addicted to gathering information about past lives.

Of cause every life they recounted has them victimised, many felt authentic to me, some I debate.

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We discussed the emotional motive of the demands and the compulsion that had developed. I explained that I allow past lives to reveal themselves; I don’t usually chase them. I read them easily when relevant to current situations, otherwise I don’t get a lot of details, more an overview.

A past life did reveal itself, but, interestingly, this time the person was a vindictive abuser and victimised many; contradicting the narrative they were trying to establish.

I explained that our soul has experienced lives in various cultures, held different authority positions, and we have had to navigate societal expectations and the ways of the era we are born too.

It was revealed that in this past authoritarian position, they had abused power and mistreated hordes of vulnerable individuals.

Contrast is a fundamental aspect of our learning, and understanding we’ve all experienced diverse types of lives. Some of these lives still influence us and underscore the significance of choice, integrity, and compassion.

This information presented an opportunity for the client to be honest about what they were protecting – their identity as a victim. Victimhood had become both an identity and a manipulative tool.

Despite experiencing terrible childhood abuse, using it as justification for emotionally abusing others only resulted in creating more victims.

They were confronted with the internal reality of their relationship with victimhood, realizing that in circumstances conducive to their control, they were prone to being abusive. Even today the client was seeking to justify their emotionally abusive behaviour instead of addressing the root cause motivating them.

Their current desire to explore past lives, was revealing the co-dependency on victimhood and the sense of entitlement to use it to control others.

Now, they are presented with an opportunity to address the beliefs, fears, and unresolved emotions that have sustained this potentially long-held behavioural pattern. This brings us back to the power of choice! The purpose of past lives exploration is to inform us so at the crossroads of choice we can make informed decisions.

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Past lives fascinate those who have a deep feeling of having been here before. For me, it is a given! When you connect with your soul, you sense the history it carries. You may not recall specific details, but there is an awareness of having lived many lives.

Personally, past lives provide context to the hows and whys of some unexplained feelings. In the past, I’ve used this understanding to gain insights into current events and to reassure myself that my soul journey is more profound than initially perceived.

 

Exploring past lives for personal growth can be a transformational journey if you use the information wisely!

 

Understanding Past Life Regression:

 

What exactly is past life regression?

Past life regression is akin to taking a stroll down memory lane, though not reminiscing about childhood memories. It involves delving into the depths of your soul, uncovering events and long held beliefs, fears and desires from the history of your soul.

It’s akin to time-traveling through the developmental history of your soul and humanity. Trust me, the insights can be mind-blowing, requiring you to use all your senses.

Some experience it as looking through a blurry glass, while others describe it as a mini-series sensed through feelings. For some, it involves seeing images, smelling scents, and hearing sounds hidden in deep memory.

Many find the experience so immersive that they relive emotional reactions and deep-seated feelings, while others may have rapid-fire images that require their other senses to slow down the process.

The exploration of past lives for personal growth is tapping into your soul knowing and you’ll feel the authenticity of it as it resonance with you!

You don’t have to be a die-hard spiritual guru to explore past lives. It’s for anyone who’s curious, open-minded, and ready for a bit of soul-searching. Consider it a personal journey—a way to connect the dots and make sense of your unique life (soul) story.

 

7 Benefits of Exploring Past Lives:

 

Past lives exploration significantly impacts our self-perception and can greatly benefit individuals. It’s important to remember that what we uncover is just a snapshot, and lifetimes are complex.

As mentioned, I’ve also witnessed past life addiction, where individuals use the pursuit to justify their actions and avoid self-responsibility. Some chase past life information to ignore the choices that created in their current life situations, preferring to see themselves as victims of history repeating.

Unlocking the past reveals why we made certain choices, but it doesn’t make us victims, but it does reveal our inner influences.

We’re on a journey of self-discovery, and events unfold to help us recognize patterns. Past life awareness assists in this process, with the goal of taking responsibility for our soul journey and potential evolution.

Ignoring the opportunity and benefits of exploring past lives creates a disconnect, potentially increasing co-dependency on others due to perceived entitlement based on soul history.

It’s essential to be mindful that past life awareness should not sustain harmful beliefs or encourage spiritual bypassing.

Despite these cautions, exploring past lives offers profound benefits for personal growth, emotional well-being, and spiritual development. Here are some major advantages:

 

  1. Healing Unresolved Traumas:

Exploration of past lives serves as a tool to unearth and heal unresolved traumas that originated in previous lifetimes and still impact us today.

Understanding an initial event empowers us to address the root causes of current emotional wounds. The historical distance allows our over-zealous protection mechanisms to subside, and our willingness to explore steps forward.

Unlocking deep memories is particularly helpful for those experiencing unexplained emotional reactions and attractions. Individuals may experience profound realizations after recognizing their emotional patterns, leading to self-honesty, healing, and relief. This presents a self-discovery opportunity, offering liberation from emotional baggage and improving mental and emotional well-being in current lives.

 

  1. Personal Growth and Self-Discovery:

When we explore past lives it is a potent method for personal growth.

I’ve observed that past lives are often revealed when we’re at a crossroad of choice.

Are we going to repeat past patterns, or venture into the unknown?

Understanding the patterns, choices, and challenges from past lives provides insights into our current personalities. Some of the personality traits developed for survival in past lives may now be holding us back.

When we explore past lives it offers an opportunity to reevaluate where we’ve been and acknowledge the lessons learned. Recognising it is time to apply what was already learned but forgotten is empowering – if we choose it to be.

This presents a personal growth opportunity, fostering increased self-awareness and a deeper understanding of one’s strengths and weaknesses, leading to personal development and a more authentic sense of self.

 

  1. Insights into Current Life Challenges:

Interpreting past lives offers valuable insights into recurring themes and challenges in our present lives. It alleviates panic and fear, as we realize we’ve faced extreme challenges before.

Past lives exploration shifts our perception of life and our immortal existence. This awareness empowers individuals to break free from negative patterns and make more soulfully informed choices.

It motivates us to strive for better because we’ve already paid the price of admission, having done the reconnaissance. This enhances self-resilience, improving problem-solving skills, decision-making, and a sense of empowerment in facing current life challenges.

 

  1. Strengthening Spiritual Connection:

Viewed as a means to deepen one’s spiritual connection, past life exploration involves tapping into the soul’s journey across lifetimes. This may involve discovering soul contracts, understanding life purposes, and connecting with higher aspects of the self.

Spirituality is about ‘knowing thyself,’ and our past lives can be a part of this self-discovery journey. This offers a spiritual growth opportunity, fostering heightened spiritual awareness, a sense of purpose, and a feeling of interconnectedness with the universe.

 

  1. Releasing Fears and Phobias:

Past life regression is effective for addressing and releasing irrational fears and phobias that have no apparent cause in the current life.

Personal Reflection: I had a client whose eight-year-old child would panic around cars in carparks. The child would put their back against any wall and side-step as if they were walking on a ledge from great heights.

This behavior started suddenly, and no one could explain why!

Crossing a road often led to detours to distant traffic lights even when no cars were visible.

It was discovered that in a past life, the child had died at eight years old from a vehicle accident. The past life was discussed, but the child didn’t change their behavior until their ninth birthday, and then instantly, the behavior changed. (Fascinating!)

Acknowledging the root cause of a phobia presents a self-awareness opportunity, allowing individuals to experience relief from unexplained fears and fostering a more liberated and fearless approach to life.

 

  1. Improved Relationships:

Past lives exploration for self-personal sheds light on the dynamics of relationships and connections with others. Understanding the shared history with certain individuals may lead to improved communication and stronger bonds.

Past lives can illuminate the structures of previous relationships to explain current behaviors and attitudes. Patterns, even in relationships, tend to repeat.

This presents relationship opportunities, fostering enhanced empathy, compassion, and a greater ability to navigate relationships with a deeper understanding of shared histories.

 

  1. Overcoming Blockages and Limiting Beliefs:

Exploring past lives can unveil the origins of current blockages and limiting beliefs, allowing individuals to address and overcome them. This self-discovery can lead to a more empowered and fulfilling life.

Personal Reflection: I had a client who struggled with fear of humiliation. Despite significant achievements, they feared accolades and lived in constant fear of major attention. This caused them to sabotage themselves if the achievements were getting noticed.

Through past life exploration, it was revealed that in a previous life, they had been falsely accused of a crime they didn’t commit, leading to unjust punishment.

This experience had created deep-seated trust issues and fear of judgment. Understanding the origin allowed the client to work through these issues and overcome their fear of judgement.

Identifying and addressing the roots of blockages and self-limiting beliefs presents us with a self-empowerment opportunity, allowing individuals for a more empowered and fulfilling life.

 

In Conclusion:

 

Past lives exploration is a profound journey that offers opportunities for healing, growth, and self-discovery.

While it can provide valuable insights and benefits, it’s crucial to approach it with a balanced perspective, avoiding the pitfalls of past life addiction and spiritual bypassing.

The key lies in using past life awareness as a tool for self-responsibility, acknowledging the choices made in past lives, and applying those lessons to the present. It’s not about victimhood; it’s about soul accountability.

Through past life exploration, individuals can release unresolved traumas, foster personal growth, gain insights into current life challenges, strengthen their spiritual connection, overcome fears and phobias, improve relationships, and address blockages and limiting beliefs.

It’s a transformative journey that, when approached with mindfulness, can lead to a more liberated, empowered, and fulfilling life.

 

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4 Best Personal Transformation Approach to Life!

4 minute read…What is the Best Personal Transformation Approach to Life?

Personal transformation is a profound and often challenging journey that shapes our identities and perspectives. In a recent podcast episode featuring an insightful conversation with Chris Thrall, the theme of personal transformation approach to life takes centre stage.

Chris Thrall, a seasoned adventurer and motivational speaker, encourages us to “Be proud of your experiences!”

Let’s delve into the essence of personal transformation, drawing inspiration from the wisdom shared.

Personal transformation is where individuals evolve emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. It’s a process of positive change that often involves embracing new perspectives, learning from experiences, and developing a deeper understanding of oneself, ultimately leading to a more fulfilled and purposeful life. This also encompasses spirituality greatly.

Spirituality is a process of transformation, expanding our awareness of self, origins, and the world we experience. The stepping-stone of your evolutionary journey creates a unique path, and we must honour the past, present, and future of our soul’s journey.

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Best Personal Transformation start with the willingness to be honest!

These four best personal transformation approaches to life are a robust foundation for any evolving soul. They are reference points to aid the navigation of challenges, cultivation of resilience, and sustaining meaningful personal transformation.

 

  1. Understanding Personal Transformation Steps Is A Dynamic Process!

 

At its core, personal transformation is a dynamic and ongoing process that involves self-discovery, growth, and adaptation.

Self-discovery requires becoming aware of oneself, stripping away denial to truly see the true essence of our being.

Growth involves turning observations into actionable wisdom.

Adaptation is crucial, as there will be a temptation to revert to the familiar. Vigilantly nurturing ourselves is essential for the transformation to become our new normal.

Our personal journeys are multifaceted. We never know what is around the corner and life throws us the unexpected. Personal transformation isn’t a one-time event but a continuous evolution fuelled by life experiences, challenges, and the willingness to embrace change.

Accepting the dynamism of life enables us to be present and aware! Personal transformation steps occur as your self-awareness expands!

 

  1. Overcoming Self-Destructive Behaviour.

 

Personal transformations challenges us to address how we treat ourselves. It is essential for self-awareness to grow. Overcoming self-destructive thoughts and behaviors requires expanding self-awareness. This sounds simple but most of us don’t acknowledge the start of our self-destructive patterns only the result. The sooner we recognise our decisions trajectories, the quicker we can adapt and be the creator of change.  

Recognizing patterns leading to self-destruction and being truthful with ourselves is the source of resilience. This truthfulness becomes a beacon of hope, inspiring us to confront inner demons and emerge stronger on the other side.

Transformation requires understanding the reality of our experiences to create new, wisdom-driven life experiences.

 

  1. Accepting The Past: A Gateway To Personal Transformation.

 

Accepting the past as a learning experience is fundamental. Embracing our past, not as a collection of regrets but as a reservoir of invaluable lessons, is liberating.

Reframing the past as a classroom rather than a courtroom empowers us to grow and evolve. Acceptance without self-persecution becomes a transformative tool, enabling us to move forward with newfound wisdom, resilience, and an unwavering commitment to continual self-improvement.

 

  1. Embracing Vulnerability and Authenticity.

 

True personal transformation involves shedding layers of pretense and embracing vulnerability. Vulnerability is courage! It involves the deliberate act of shedding the protective armour that conceals our authentic selves. This process necessitates the embracement of self-honesty, a crucial step in allowing the armour to gradually dissipate.

In embracing vulnerability, we unlock the power to connect deeply with ourselves and others. Our self-honesty cultivates resilience, creating space to rejuvenate our relationship with authenticity.

The courage to be authentic, even in the face of judgment, becomes a transformative act in itself.

 

In Conclusion: “Be Proud of Your Experiences”: A Mantra for Empowerment.

 

Personal transformation is a multifaceted journey demanding self-reflection, resilience, and a willingness to embrace change. We can all embark on a journey of self-discovery, proudly owning our experiences and emerging stronger, wiser, and more authentic than ever before.

Chris Thrall’s empowering quote encapsulates the essence of the conversation, serving as a rallying cry for individuals to take pride in their unique journeys. This mantra fosters a sense of empowerment, encouraging individuals to reclaim their narratives and find strength in their resilience. Celebrate the transformative process, remembering that each step forward is a victory, and every experience, no matter how challenging, contributes to the tapestry of our personal growth.

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Are You A Spiritual Explorer?

6 minute read… Published in SYL Magazine.

If one of these points resonates with you, triggers an internal knowing, makes you self-reflect, or is part of your own aspirations, you are a spiritual explorer.

  1. Are you willing to question everything?

Do you seek the truth and aspire to reconnect with your authenticity or the pacification of a desire to be special?

Soul searching is uncovering the truth; it can get messy and emotionally raw as you question why you feel the way you do, acknowledge the motives behind the things you do and expose what you have suppressed within, hidden under layers of camouflage.

Recognising the uniqueness of your soul and embracing your significance, occurs as you deal with how you have camouflaged the unresolved emotions that shield you from the truth of who you naturally are. As you recognise your resonance with truth, accept reality and respect the value of choice, you begin to appreciate life.

If it is an image of being special or spiritually elite you seek, you will miss the mark and could easily bypass doing the inner-work.

Exploring isn’t easy, but is always rewarding!

Pacifying a desire to use spirituality to hide from your internal reality; is like pitching a tent on a floating iceberg, with a campfire. You are only seeing what you want to see, filtered through a desire that is not based in reality. It might not be too difficult to get the fire started if you have brought your supply of firewood—established beliefs about spirituality, the image you want to portray and avoidance techniques—but keeping it going will be taxing and will get to the point of undeniable pretence.

Eventually, the fire is either going to be unreplenishable in that environment causing you to abandon your campsite, seeking another location to do it all over again, until you have a campsite that accommodates your beliefs and supports your denials.

Or you might abandon camping in a tent, swapping to a caravan—belief hopping.

Or it will leave you unable to exist in your tent, due to the melting ice—representing how the illusory spirituality chips away at your sense of self and can cause damage to your emotional and spiritual well-being.

When you realise you were not looking at reality, you can begin to learn how to be truthful with yourself. Instead of trying to create an alternate reality that does not feed your soul or rejuvenate a relationship with yourself, truth or others, you can begin to explore what does. You can begin to be present in whatever environment you find yourself in, exploring reality.

Your experiences create opportunities to recognise the flaws in your beliefs, images, illusions and denials. Instead of abandoning, you can begin to objectively observe and seek to understand what you feared questioning, examining and acknowledging. This is a stepping-stone to exploring what is meaningful through the exploration of what you have experienced.

Learning from all your experiences enables you to walk away from any event with greater awareness. Throughout the expedition of life, you experience learning and then expanding on what you’ve learnt; it is a continuous and exciting process.

If you are prepared to question everything, and seek to understand truth, regardless of whether you like the answer or not, you are ready to explore.

  1. Are you prepared to challenge and deal with your unresolved emotions, beliefs and fears?

Do you seek to justify or to understand what is unresolved within?

Every evolutionary journey involves soul-searching and truth-seeking because you will confront your unresolved emotions, embedded beliefs and fears. We are all on the journey of life, and some feel the internal yearning for it to become an evolutionary trail and tale.

The internal yearning grows stronger the more aware you become of the void within. The void you feel is a recognition of your separation from being aware and attuned to your soul. This includes authenticity, sense of being and your core essences, such as unconditional love, self-kindness and compassion. (24 keycore essences are explored in my books and courses.)

When you turn your attention to your soul, you will also awaken to the labyrinth of unconscious energyemotional baggagethat sustain your separation from the truth of your soul. Soul-searching is required; you have to work out what is of value to you and how to resolve why you have carried and sustained what is hidden in your baggage.

Soul-evolution is returning unconscious energy to consciousness. It is understanding, aligning and unifying with truth. As you do this, the walls of the emotional labyrinths crumble. At times it is a wall you have to climb, to understand each component. Others you’ll hit with a sledge-hammer and some have secret compartments attached, but as each wall crumbles it enables you to see further, unobstructed by self-distortions. Your perception changes, because you are aware of more and it changes the foundation you stand on.

When you seek to understand, you begin to take the filters off, which enables you to embrace what you discover, knowing it is a stepping-stone to resolution, recovery and evolution.

The evolutionary process requires contemplation about the purpose and consequences of your decisions; it is acknowledging the truth—as much as you are aware of at that time. It is also reflecting on our actions, and taking responsibility for

where you have been,
where you are now
and where you can choose to go.

When you seek to justify your unresolved emotions, you’ll forget the mission is to resolve and evolve; to be free of the emotional angst your suppressed emotions create. You will get caught defending what fortifies your emotional labyrinths. Instead of deconstructing, you’ll be the architect of your own wall construction, creating a prison out of your emotional labyrinth. This leads to denial of self-responsibility and soul-accountability.

If you are prepared to acknowledge the significance of self-responsibility and of being the caretaker of your soul, you are ready to explore.   

  1. Can you be a friend to yourself and accept truth as a friend?

 Are you willing to explore your relationship with yourself and truth or are you trying to control yourself and truth better?

The most important relationship you have is the one with yourself. Treat yourself like a friend (or how you would like your friends to treat you). Try to inspire yourself by being supportive, compassionate and good company to be around. It is important that you show yourself respect and acknowledge you are not your emotions; they are part of what you are experiencing.

Accept the path you have walked so far and acknowledge that you decide the direction you follow. You cannot control what is going to happen on the road ahead but you choose how you deal with what has or is occurring. You choose how you deal with yourself.

You are important,
even when you believe the world does not see you.

Truth is your friend, it guides you and as you accept it is always supporting your soul, you realise that it is you who could improve your relationship with truth. Truth-seeking is done with truth, it is not hiding, it is waiting for you to decide it is worthy of your attention.

Truth is not something to control, it is either accepted, denied or exploited. It asks nothing in return, just to be acknowledged and valued, because it knows every truth accepted, enables you to travel further down the evolutionary road.

Controlling yourself to what you believe, is different to taking truth by the hand and exploring the good, bad and sometimes ugly beliefs, fears and emotions you have carried and protected. Exploring is being in the arena of freewill, knowing you are responsible for the relationship you have with yourself (your soul), truth and others.

If you are prepared to be a good friend to truth and yourself, or to learn why you struggle to do so, you are ready to explore.

A definition of a friend might help you realise the importance of a friendship with yourself and truth. (Sourced from Urban Dictionary – by tangles10, April 28, 2010)

‘A friend is someone you love and who loves you, someone you respect and who respects you, someone whom you trust and who trusts you. A friend is honest and makes you want to be honest, too. A friend is loyal.

A friend is someone who forgives you no matter what you do, and someone who tries to help you even when they don’t know how. A friend is someone who tells you if you’re being stupid, (unconscious, lost in denial or acting-out emotionally – just adding a bit to this), but who doesn’t make you feel stupid (worthless, not good enough or insignificant – just adding a bit more).

A friend is someone for whom you’re willing to change your opinions (explore new possibilities). A friend is someone you look forward to seeing and who looks forward to seeing you.

A friend is a partner, not a leader or a follower.

The word “friend” comes from Old English “frēond“, which is actually the present particle of “frēogan“, which means “to love” and “to honour”.’

You may be the friend you have been looking for?
When you realise truth is a friend, it makes the evolutionary journey easier.

Remember if one of these points resonates with you, triggered an internal knowing, made you self-reflect, or is part of your aspirations, you are a spiritual explorer. 

The True Value of Mateship

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Mateship is a privilege and a joy to have!  It is the next level up from friends, they are loved ones. These are the special people we allow and look for in our inner sanctum. Only the people in our lives that we have an intimate connection with have access to our inner sanctum. It is the people we unconditionally love, trust and are not afraid to share our deepest thoughts, feelings and concerns with. It is an unexplainable bond!

Mateship is a soul-to-soul connection. There is a knowing that when we are together, being in each other’s presence, makes us feel loved, supported and happy.

They are the friends that have our back and when others walk away and pretend not to notice our struggles they step forward and say “I’m here beside you.”

They don’t take control of our lives or attempt to dictate the conditions of the mateship ; they accept us for who we are and we accept them. They support us in our time of need and love to celebrate our achievements.

The happiness that comes from mateship is uplifting. To have a confidant who never judges you is priceless.

When a mate betrays us, they show us they were never a true mate, they were an imposter. We’ll meet imposters, and it will hurt like hell when we realise they didn’t value our love for them. Many of us have spent years believing they care about us as much as we have cared about them, only to discover when the conditions suit, they’ll take the opportunity to treacherously betray the value of our mateship . They’ll discard us or arrogantly believe that they could cross the lines held within the mateship code, hoping we’ll remain loyal to the belief that we are mates. Once the lines are crossed, and hurt is felt confusion reigns. When respect is gone so is the mateship. This only proves they devalue mateship, (not you, this behaviour should never be used as an assessment of your worth).

The ultimate criteria of mateship is trust; we love that we can trust them. Our mates are trustworthy and never intentionally hurt, betray or put us down. They are our champion and we are theirs. It is an honour to be considered a mate and with that comes the responsibility of honouring those who trust us.

There are people who don’t know how to be a valuable friend, they take but don’t give back. These people may fool us that they are mates, but their true colours will eventually override any illusion they’ve used to manipulate us.

It is empowering to follow the advice of Dr. Maya Angelou, “When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.” This doesn’t mean we can’t give some grace; hiccups happen but don’t ignore who people are. Trusting what we witness can save us a lot of heartache further down the track. When we override self-respect to give the benefit of the doubt to someone we want to remain loyal to, we open ourselves up to manipulation. Mates don’t manipulate each other!

Make your decision of who you can trust by how you feel in their presence. Always take notice of their words and actions, and if they are not in sync, acknowledge that truth. If you find you’re making excuses for them, or apologising to others on their behalf, know it is time to walk away.

Your happiness is too valuable to be wasted on false mateships.

Your integrity is too valuable to be abused by those who do not value you.

Value your friendships and choose your mates wisely.

A true mate is one the greatest sources of happiness you’ll ever know.

Written by Lorraine Nilon

 

 

 

 

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Intuition – A brief overview

1 minute read…

We are all intuitive souls, we can feel, sense and hear truth. Our souls naturally resonate with truth, and intuition is the recognition of that resonance.

Intuition is an internal signal telling us to be aware of ourselves, take notice of reality and be open to exploring. Working with our intuition does not mean we always have the answers, but it does mean we are aware that there is a question. This can be the start of a beautiful adventure, one that your soul is aware of the possibilities but we may not recognise until in hindsight we see how the pieces fell together. When we trust we can feel our souls calling us in a direction. it requires us to back our own intuition-inner knowing.

Developed intuition is knowing when to value the significance of our internal feelings, and to trust our awareness.

Our intuition is a signal that it is time to be curious, observant and true to ourselves. When we acknowledge what we can internally feel we intuitively gain, or are in a process of gaining, insight and awareness.

Developing our intuition enables us to feel truth, which may not be all the truth. It could be a snippet or an awareness that something is out of alignment with truth. Intuition is recognising our awareness of energy; an internal knowing that we are responding to the frequency of truth, or reacting to the vibration of something that is out of kilter with truth.

Unfortunately, as we separate from the truth of who we naturally are, and the truth of our feelings, we make it difficult to trust what we feel, sense and internally know. This often leaves us overriding our own insight and awareness, and it not until hindsight kicks in that we realise the importance of what we had felt.

Empaths are highly sensitive to what they feel, sense and hear. The more they understand energy, the better they can work with and not against their own intuition. Empaths are highly intuitive but are often confused by their own awareness.