Feet-on-the-Ground Spirituality

4 minute read…

There are many pitfalls that often leave spiritual seekers, even those with the best intentions, to lose themselves to illusions. Illusions conjured by their desire to be spiritual, elite or an attempt to escape their internal turmoil. We have all fallen into them, and some are difficult to detect because they feed our spiritual ego.

It is important to recognise when we are spiritually bypassing our real issues and behaviours.

John Welwood, a Buddhist teacher and psychotherapist, in the early 1980s first coined the term spiritual bypassing – “the tendency to use spiritual ideas and practices to side-step or avoid facing unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds and unfinished development tasks.” This beautifully sums up what many do, often unintentionally and yet with conviction.

It is easy to become lost in denial, especially when we run an internal narrative that feeds the illusion of transcendence or transformation, before we have even identified the truth of our emotional selves.

When we fool ourselves with spiritual beliefs and practices, it becomes easier to oppose being truthful. Life has a way of revealing the truth to us, and all spiritual journeys are fraught with crossroads of decisions that basically come down to either:

  • Acknowledge the rawness of our truth, while being willing to explore the truth with an open mind. Get real about it.


  • Cling to the story we want to believe, while protectively deflecting any evidence that proves we don’t understand our truth. Create a distraction that ensures we don’t even look.

We do the latter by ignoring and justifying any behaviour that exposes what is unresolved within or is used to shield us from having to face our own reality.

Spiritual bypassing is telling ourselves what we want to hear to justify our denial of our reality. It is attempting to remain in a performance derived from a spiritual illusion, to not only avoid facing the reality of our emotional issues and behaviours, but to also feel in control of our suppression of them.

Spiritual by-passing: Ignoring the reality of yourself, while clinging to a spiritual belief or illusion that distracts you from being honest. Using spiritual concepts, words and beliefs to deny self-responsibility and soul-accountability. (Sourced from glossary of Spirituality, Evolution & Awakened Consciousness)

Feet-on-the-ground spirituality means the opposite of spiritual bypassing. It means to get real, face our emotional issues and behaviours with honest self-observations. It is being prepared to acknowledge the truth of our unconsciousness and do the work required to resolve it.

Doing the work means to be truthful, acknowledge the emotions, feel the reality of them, develop an understanding through self-reflection and contemplation. And then use that information – awareness, to apply a conscious response to what was once an unconscious aspect of ourselves.

Feet-on-the-ground spirituality is to be spiritual in reality,
not to create an alternate reality to be spiritual in.

When we acknowledge part of any spiritual journey is learning the truth of our emotional reality, we become willing to confront what we have suppressed and hidden within with self-compassion.

Life is a rise and fall from grace journey. We can be operating extremely authentically and then stumble and fall into embodying the unconsciousness of our soul – some refer to it as the shadow-side.

Feet-on-the-ground spirituality means we are willing, sometimes reluctantly, to recognise and take self-responsibility for the energy of our unconsciousness. Spirituality is knowing that we are souls, and when exposed to the truth of our own energy, we accept that there is an opportunity to learn from ourselves. This requires truthfulness, which we all know at times is difficult to muster, as we compete against all the embedded beliefs, fears and triggered emotions that cause us to fall from grace.

Fall from grace is operating separated from our soul’s consciousness – the divinity within, our authenticity. This is, in contrast, to rise with grace, which is to operate in unification with our soul’s consciousness and truth. Spirituality is the journey of creating unity within. Spiritual bypassing is sustaining the separation while believing there is no separation, and filling the void created with spiritual illusions and performances.

Grace stems from our acceptance that it is truth, in all its forms that will aid us to be honestly present, willing to objectively observe ourselves as we endeavour to discover the truth of who we are, as we resolve what oppresses our soul-awareness.

Spirituality is the recognition that there is a continuum to our souls, and life is a part of that journey. When we are willing to resolve what is unresolved within, which is to heal.

Resolving what burdens our soul, enables us to evolve beyond the limitations of our unconsciousness, because we will no longer carry the energy that burdens our soul.

Feet-on-the-ground spirituality is honouring the consciousness of who we naturally are and of our origins, by being prepared to face, learn from and deal with what impedes our relationship with truth. It is then the practice of being truthful, especially to ourselves about ourselves. Applying what we learn to our day-to-day existence. This improves our relationship with ourselves – our souls, truth and our origins. It also enables our consciousness to flow freely, expanding our awareness of truth. This is evolution.

Feet-on-the-ground spirituality is to be conscious of your soul journey,
seeking what nurtures your soul, while respecting that life and
all the messy emotional adventures are positioning you to
discover the present reality of yourself.

I believe if you took the time to continue to read this to the end, you seek to be spiritually authentic.


2 minute read…

Are you destined to explore the unknown wilderness of your soul?

Spiritual explorers are born with an inner knowing that they have something to do this lifetime!

Many spiritualists feel the urge to leave ‘no-rock-unturned’. This means they will do all they can to achieve what they were born to do. They are born with an inner knowing, that this life is an opportunity for evolution. They are also aware it requires committed truth-seeking and soul-searching, and begin to question everything. They’ll know that something is amiss and be aware of a void within, and seek meaning in their life experiences. These people are aware, even before they truly understand it, that they have a soul intent to resolve what anchors them to their unconsciousness.

This inner knowing will eventually awaken them to the journey ahead because they know it is a return to their truth. They know adopting beliefs, aligning with other’s expectations or performing spiritual illusions will not satisfy them. They yearn for authenticity and to embrace their resonance with the truth of their origins.

Many have had a rough time due to their heightened awareness; they see what others ignore and feel what others deny. They are sensitive to energy, the shifts that reveal the frequencies of truth and the vibrations of non-truths. The world can be a confusing place for those who feel with their heart, and various paths are walked until the shine of their consciousness awakens them to the uniqueness of their soul.

Awakening isn’t a belief they align to; it is a willingness to broaden their understanding of our place within the reality many are oblivious to. The journey is one of highs and lows, and each step is an opportunity to grow. Eventually, it enables them to see and reject the desires they have been indoctrinated to believe make them unworthy of their internal knowing. They begin to reject the superficial, recognising it does not feed their soul. They look for meaningfulness, truthfulness and inner-fulfillment.

As the veils of denial start to lift, at first, they are shocked at what they missed, and confusion often reigns as they attempt to make sense of their awareness of life. They search for answers that have a resonance with their soul. They accept (sometimes dubiously) that their life experiences as teachers. With each rock they turn, new learning begins. They are spiritual explorers, born to intentionally participate in the evolution of their soul.

Accepting you are a spiritual explorer, with a unique path to walk, can be both liberating and daunting. However, a spiritual explorer will take the steps into the unknown, because they know they are not alone as they walk.

When we mindfully explore the labyrinth of life, we evolve through our discoveries. When we refuse to acknowledge the opportunities life presents, we become stuck in the labyrinth, unaware that we are the key to unburdening our souls.

Any fool can know. The point is to understand – Quote Albert Einstein

5.20 minute read…

There is a reason why we ignore what we know.
Knowing the reason transforms
knowledge into understanding.
A game-changer.

The reasons why we ignore what we know, vary from person to person, but fundamentally it boils down to what we select as valuable. When the truth of something interferes with what we want to be true, we devalue truth and align with our desires—our wants. When the blinkers go on and we deliberately ignore the truth, it means we fool ourselves.

We fool ourselves to believe our desires are the most important thing in the world. This causes us to become people we don’t like. Whatever we value instead of truth is going to create harm to ourselves, others or our environment.

We all have carrots—that ‘something’ we want—and are prepared to ignore everything we internally know in our attempts to get it. They are changeable and often unpredictable; we covet one carrot and then exchange it for another. However, they are always ego-driven. This is recognisable when truth is devalued.

We automatically think of material possessions or achieving an outcome, but our carrots run deeper than that. If we only look at what we covet – our carrots, from the materialistic or accomplishment angle, we prove that we do not understand our motives, which is often the case.

A possession or achievement that we covet and believe proves we have crossed the finish line, becomes a stepping stone to creating a new carrot. Ego driven desires ignite the compulsion for more, because they never truly feed the undercurrent of embedded beliefs, unresolved emotions and suppressed fears that flame the desire.

When the carrot is dangled and we believe it is ours for the taking, we deliberately use the energy of our unconsciousness to get it. We operate from the emotions we deny and generally become governed by one or more of the *seven deadly sins, which become shields to acknowledging the truth of ourselves. (*Lust, Greed, Gluttony, Envy, Wrath, Sloth, Pride and the Narcissism of Vanity.)

What we consider to be a carrot—that important ‘something’, depends on what it is that we desire. Some desires stem from a thought fuelled by a belief that having or achieving that ‘something’, proves we are entitled to live getting what we want. We believe that ‘something’ proves we are more important than others or that we can manifest our desires. Sometimes we believe it will alleviate fear or disprove a belief that we are not good enough. It could have developed from a triggered competition, trying to prove we are better than another or what another has instilled in us or implied we are.  It may be sustaining an expectation that we have been indoctrinated into. Carrots came in many varieties.

Regardless of how we dangle the carrot in front of ourselves, it can become a desire that we lose ourselves to. These types of burning desires do not originate from our soul, they stem from the pits of our unconsciousness—the lowest denominator of our energy, and cause us to forsake our souls.

Soul aspirations stem from an innate knowing that is anchored in truth. These cause us to seek the truth and to deal with reality. This is not what I’m talking about here! These carrots cause us to ignore what we know, and to arrogantly oppose the reality of ourselves. We use them to trigger the energy of our unconsciousness, which leads us to be egotistical and manipulative.

The desire to get what we believe we want—our carrots, expose the energy within the cesspit of our unconsciousness and how willing we are to devalue truth. They reveal our lack of understanding about our souls, the life-purpose of resolution and evolution, and of the value of being truthful.

What we covet—our carrots—cause us to:

  • feed our denial and then we see no evil in what we do.
  • hear no truth and then we avoid acknowledging the reality of how we counteract truth with deception.
  • do as we please, and then we resist taking responsibility for our actions.
  • speak lies, and then we co-dependently cling to justifying our position.

When we ignore what we know and fixate on the desire, we allow ourselves to embody the resistance, denial and avoidance required to fasten to the pursuit we have forsaken truth for. Facts become irrelevant. Our shared history becomes incidental. The damage we cause becomes trivialised. We become the embodiment of indifference and use resentment, blame and judgement to justify ourselves. We exploit and deny the significance of others. We take, disregarding the consequences and we destroy something—relationships, sense of self or resources. We also extinguish the core essences of our souls.

This pattern of behaviour may land us with the prize we seek, but at what cost? It is also a guarantee that it will not feed our souls, it will feel toxic and leave some form of destruction behind in our path.

The toxicity felt grows and triggers compulsive behaviours, leaving us to contend with our emotionally out-burst or internal implosions. Toxicity creates an internal tension that builds into anxiety, paranoia or a complete superficial existence. We can become stuck on a treadmill of self-sabotage even if we cannot recognise it; fixated on the carrot, unwilling to acknowledge what we are doing to ourselves and others. We separate further from our souls, so that we can ignore what we know.

We don’t understand that our inner angst cannot be quelled with materialism, accolades or ego-driven achievement. Our inability to understand stems from an unwillingness to acknowledge what we know, so we gloss over reality and fixate on the elusive carrot. This eventually leaves us rudderless. We lose purpose because what we have strived for lacks true meaning and becomes purposeless.

Understanding why we desire the carrot can change how we undertake the pursuit. We may walk away knowing it was a fool’s errand, we may take what is still linked to truth and build a meaningful endeavour. Or we may refuse to be honest with ourselves and continue to ignore all we know to align with the desire.

Asking the question of why we desire what we do, and then honestly answering it enables what we know to transform into understanding. Then the catch is to use the understanding wisely.

Recognising when we are lost in the pursuit of an outcome, and awake to how disconnected from what we are experiencing, can be a trigger to ask the question why the outcome is important. It also shows us it is time to address our boundaries. Boundaries reflect our values. Knowing what we value enables us to question ourselves honestly.

When truth and integrity are valued, regardless of the events that unfold, we have an anchor to our soul. This enables us to feed our soul along the journey and to recognise that being of our truth and living with integrity is the achievable carrot that is eaten along the way, not chased down the rabbit-hole of an emotional abyss.

When we make being of the essences of our soul a priority of living, we realise we are already good enough and, instead of trying to prove we are important, we share our significance with all we encounter. Understanding our value system enables us to live in a way that expresses our soul, instead of oppressing our soul.

We live in a world that no longer see each other as souls, sentient beings and instead view us as consumers or exploitable. We have allowed this perception to rob us of the fundamentals of being human.

It has deprived us of:

  • Being true to our souls.
  • Valuing the core essences of our soul.
  • Embracing the journey to achievement.
  • Defining life’s successes via experiences.
  • Accepting the internal knowing that life is an evolutionary expedition.
  • Understanding resolving our unconsciousness creates evolution within ourselves.

Knowing what we value is a stepping-stone to transforming
what we know into understanding.

Insight & Awareness Self-Help Books

3.40 minute read…

Insight & Awareness books

do not sit comfortably in the tradition of ‘self-help’ books.

If you are only driven by achieving an outcome, fixated on “your wants”, seeking to manifest your will, or on the chase to control life, these books will irritate you. They are not manuals that tell you to follow specific instructions or adhere to the advice. They layout a landscape, remove the cloaks of camouflage so that you can journey through, building your awareness, while uncovering what you recognise.

They provide a map highlighting what to contemplate and supply a platform for you to become self-reflective. This starts with what is written and how it relates to you, from there you will become more aware of yourself.

Each book is an introspective journey, an expedition—a way of exploring your inner-self.

The books provide an opportunity to discover the inner obstacles to knowing and nurturing your soul. They work best when you accept and seek to find all that is carried, generated and emanated from your soul. These books create a junction of circumstances that provide an opportunity to understand your truth, to soul-search and to accept the complexity and simplicity of your reality. Your life experiences and the books insightful information as well as your curiosity combine, enabling you to intentionally participate in your evolutionary journey. 

Insight & Awareness books meet you where you are at, and

shows you to perspectives that are hidden within you.

You are already on a soul journey; it is called life, and life is a messy affair. You will experience regret, disappointment, grief, losses, failure and be shocked by the unexpected. You will also experience joy, excitement, love, successes and be pleasantly surprised by the unexpected. That’s life, one big bag of mixed emotions and events.

Learning from life is not a straightforward event nor is it neat and tidy; it is messy because we are attempting to deal with the irrationality of our emotions as we head towards the unknown. At times learning is a chaotic adventure and each exploration can highlight more than we bargained for; it is a dynamic multi-stranded journey.

Learning requires us to acknowledge ourselves and reality. Acknowledgement allows us to progress and to expand our awareness. Insight & Awareness books, unravel the complexities of life and present it to you, offering the opportunity to learn from what you have experienced.   

Life is walking a path,

the catch is learning how to look up and see the view.

Insight & Awareness books reveal the purpose of life and why you are here. They support you to acknowledge the meaningfulness of your experiences and highlight what matters. What you take notice of and resonate with depends on where you have set the binoculars. You can read the same information at different times and you’ll become aware of something new. (Have fun experimenting with this concept.) As your awareness increases, you’ll recognise a deeper layer to what you are reading.

Our life purpose is about realising we belong in consciousness. Knowing what that means takes a self-discovery journey, one that lasts a lifetime and beyond. Developing an honest relationship with ourselves, others, life, the truth and our origins, is an evolutionary endeavoura continuous one.

Insight & Awareness books don’t ask you to get on a spiritual journey, they inform you that you are already on one. Living in all its forms is a spiritual journey. When you recognise this, it gives greater meaning to all you have experienced and are experiencing.

The information, stories and exercises enlighten you to the possibility of turning pain into insight. Trauma into resilience. Confusion into clarity and much more. They demonstrate why it is worth walking towards what was once ran from and instead of carrying what is suppressed, get it out, deal with it and allow yourself to grow. With a new perspective emotional and spiritual growth is inevitable.

Carrying our emotional baggage on a merry-go-round of soul oppression, sustains what we want to run from. So, deal with or don’t deal with the reality of yourself, it is a choice. These books reveal an often-hidden reality that we are constantly choosing either to deal with reality or to ignore it. The latter leaves us trapped in our own emotional prisons, stuck on the merry-go-round of repeat, repeat, miss the point, repeat, repeat, miss the point. 

Insight & Awareness books are thought-provoking, asking you to examine your beliefs, to feel your reactions and to listen to your soul. They are more than just books they are invitations, explorations and create opportunities to get honest. They assist the development of your clarity and expand your understanding of being a significant soul in a larger evolutionary story.

What resonates with your soul becomes illuminated; it may answer a question, open a door to more questions or enable you to recognise and appreciate yourself. Sometimes you’ll be confronted, staring down the barrel of what you wanted to ignore. Other times you’ll scratch your head, knowing there is something you want to grasp and it may take more time or another experience before you get it. Sometimes you’ll celebrate the pieces falling in place and other times it reaffirms what you already knew. 

Insight & Awareness are books for your soul!

What is the most important part of spirituality?

1 minute read…

This week I was asked, ” What I thought was the most important part of spirituality?”

This is an interesting question!

This was my answer, however there is no one answer and each of us prioritise different things at different time; it is dependent on our current situation.

We can philosophise about the meaning of life, and use words of wisdom, but it is the actions we take and how we interact with each other that reveals what we value.

Spirituality can become a shield we hide behind as we ignore how we operate in this world. True spirituality is to be engaged in our life experiences, acknowledging whatever they are revealing to us. It is also being aware of ourselves, taking responsibility and accountability for our contribution to what we are experiencing.

Each of our actions has an intent, some hidden better than others. If we are honest about our intent, we are more in tuned with our authenticity.

The most important part of spirituality is being truthful about ourselves, without that, we are disconnected from our authenticity. Disconnection allows us to use spirituality as a convenience, image or a source to sustain denial.

Truthfulness doesn’t always come easy, because we have to compete against our own fears, judgements and denial. Understanding this, and then learning how to deal with the unconsciousness of ourselves, is a major part of all true spiritual journeys and it also leads to evolution.


Lorraine Nilon