069 – The Importance Of Validating Our Emotions and Surviving Narcissism!

The Importance of validating our emotions, feelings and awareness cannot be understated.

Embark on a transformative journey with Lorraine Nilon, your guide through the intricate landscapes of self-worth and validation. Surviving narcissism and being gaslit causes us to lose our sense of self! This episode and the blog mentioned is a resource for improved self worth and validation of the complexities of narcissistic relationships.  

In this episode 69 – of “The Spiritual Explorer” podcast, Lorraine delve into the importance of validating our emotions and feelings, and navigating the intricate tapestry of emotions that narcissism and gaslighting evokes.

It is an episode that shows you not only why the following questions are important but also give you ways of answering them:

  • How do we validate our emotions when others are dismissing them?
  • How do we deal with gaslighting which invalidates our emotions, feelings and awareness of reality?
  • Why we mustn’t neglect our self worth and validation of our experience?

Episode Highlights:

Unlocking the Power Within: Join Lorraine Nilon as she unravels the mysteries impact to our self-worth and validation by those who attempt to steal our confidence. She dives deep into the importance of validating our emotions. discusses why gaslighting causes us to feel defective.

Learn how acknowledging and embracing your emotions can be a catalyst for personal growth and resilience.

The Sacred Art of Validation: Explore the spiritual dimensions of validation—from within and without. Lorraine shares insights into the sacred journey of validating yourself and extending that validation to others. Discover the transformative impact this simple yet profound act can have on your spiritual and emotional well-being.

Navigating Self-Relationships with Compassion after Gaslighting Emotional Abuse: In this episode, Lorraine explores the art of validating our own and others’ feelings, fostering deeper connections in relationships. Learn practical tips on how to navigate the intricate dance of emotions with compassion and understanding.

Surviving Narcissism and Gaslighting: A crucial segment of this episode focuses on surviving narcissism—an exploration into recognizing narcissistic behavior, validating your awareness, feelings, and worth. Lorraine provides empowering insights and tools to shield yourself against manipulation and emerge stronger.

Why You Can’t Miss This Episode: In a world filled with constant challenges, Lorraine Nilon serves as your spiritual guide, offering wisdom and practical advice on the transformative power of validation. Whether you’re navigating life-changing events, seeking deeper connections in relationships, or surviving the complexities of narcissism, this episode is your compass to emotional resilience.

Tune in to “The Spiritual Explorer” podcast and join Lorraine Nilon on a journey of self-discovery, empowerment, and spiritual growth. Embrace the importance of validating our emotions and unlock the doors to a more authentic and fulfilling life.

Subscribe now and embark on the path to emotional well-being with “The Spiritual Explorer” podcast. Your transformation begins here.

 

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Gaslighting, surviving narcissism and the importance of validating our emotions!

If you are interested Lorraine wrote this blog to help those seeking a greater understanding of what they have experienced. The Importance of Validating our Emotions means we need to become informed and curious.  Surviving narcissism is never easy and it is through understanding what you have experienced that you begin to heal!

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Healing after narcissism seems overwhelming, and validating our feelings is a starting point!

 

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💫Use the Self-Reflective Questions as journal prompts, as a point for quiet self-contemplation or as a conversation starters with your friends.
💫FLIP THE BOOK is an intuitive and self-reflective discussion that is both revealing and is full of philosophical questions and answers. We learn a lot from other people’s experiences and perception.
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Gaslighting Quote.

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Healing After Narcissism, Surviving Narcissism, and How to Be Self-Validating.

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Healing after narcissism seems overwhelming, and validating our feelings is a starting point!

Life is a complex journey filled with unexpected twists, challenging relationships, and transformative moments. For those of us who have survived narcissism or had our fair share of life storms, we know the intensity of the emotions we’ve suppressed in the hope that our sacrifice will lead to a harmonious future.

There are not many who, in hindsight, will still defend the action of grin and bear it!

Navigating through life-changing events is hard enough without having to survive another’s narcissism. Many dread the realization that another is treating them so obnoxiously and attempt to disregard the impact narcissism is having on their emotional well-being.

All those who have lived, worked, and even attempted to be friends with a narcissist know once the realization that you’re in a relationship with a narcissist has occurred – there is no dimmer switch.
Narcissists leave their prey grappling with a whirlwind of emotions: we gave grace; they gave us contemptuous criticism. We created excuses; they kept pushing our boundaries until they were non-existent, leaving us bewildered.

When we realize that there is intention behind their obnoxiousness, the crashing weight of regret, humiliation, and sorrow becomes a shame we carry.

When this realization is no longer pushed aside, it is important to validate our own feelings, acknowledge the narcissist’s intent, and seek validation from supportive others.

Support during this time becomes not just relevant but crucial for our emotional well-being. The support should never come with demands; it should be a safe place for them to unravel the reality of healing after narcissism, even if they’re trapped in the relationship.

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Healing after narcissism requires honest self-reflection and support!

Understanding the Power of Validation:

In the midst of life’s emotional storms and the realization of reality, the simple act of acknowledging and validating our emotions can be a beacon fire. One that reminds us of our worth, steering us in the direction of nurturing and protecting ourselves.

Validating ourselves is like finding a safe harbor in the midst of a tempest, a space where we are allowed to feel and express without judgment.

Validation is not about agreeing with our emotions but recognizing their existence. This enables us to understand they’re an indicator beaconing us to acknowledge how we feel and to be honest with ourselves.

Within all emotional storms, there is a moment that requires us to be honest with ourselves and acknowledge the true impact of what we are experiencing on our personal well-being.

In the storm of realization, confusion will cause us to look for the familiar ports, places to hide from reality. The patterns we often detest but are known will begin, and we must acknowledge the choices we are making. If we want different from ourselves, we must respond differently to our emotional reactions.

We’ll attempt to avoid feeling what we believe proves we deserve to suffer. It is a hidden belief buried under sorrow and disappointment and built on misconceptions. But it can be strong and cloud our ability to discern the truth.
We never deserved to suffer, and when another takes pleasure from the power and control of instigating such pain, they exist on the spectrum of narcissism.

mystic image of a lady with lots of emotional thoughts -Lorraine Nilon quote-Validation is not about agreeing with our emotions but recognizing their existence.

Surviving Narcissism and Gaslighting!

Personal Reflection:

I vividly recall a period in my life when I was faced with the realization that someone close to me was not healthy for me. Every time I’d try to explain my emotions, I was met with disparaging remarks and the gaslight jive choreographed by a champion.

The next day I’d find myself being lectured to, as they reiterated my words as their own. Accusing me of what I’d tried to discuss the day before. It was bizarre that they expected me to ignore the twist of my words. They said them as if they never heard them before!

The frustration was insurmountable because trying to find solutions with someone who only wanted to annihilate my confidence is unachievable.

Self-doubt crept in as they attempted to steer me towards being submissive to their deviant coercion. I doubted my grasp of reality, questioned my motives, and felt guilty for being the source of another’s trauma. Except I wasn’t that was the jive of gaslighting, to make the innocent feel guilty, and to accuse the victim of being the perpetrator!

I was desperately trying to be nice, thoughtful, and compassionate, and it was all used against me!

It was during this time a friend’s simple validation, “I can see you’re going through a tough time, and that’s okay,” became a lifeline. “I can see deception at play, and you’re trying to support them as they take advantage of you!”

That acknowledgment allowed me to embrace the truth of my emotions and take the first steps in stopping my fight against reality and my own awareness.

We try to tell ourselves it’s not that bad; “you’re misreading the situation”, but most of the time we are not. We instinctively know, acknowledging the truth of the other person is going to change the relationship forever, so we attempt to deny reality at our peril.

The validation opens the door to validate myself because not only were they gaslighting me, but I was also gaslighting myself.

This realization enables me to stop and take accountability for myself and not to continue taking full responsibility for another’s behaviour. It was an opportunity to value my freedom to have boundaries.

This acknowledged reality became part of the steps towards healing the deeper wounds that made me susceptible to appeasement for the illusion of peace, respect, and love. An illusion never sustains and once recognized becomes tainted with the ugliness of their narcissistic traits.

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Recovery from gaslighting is possible!

Self-Gaslighting:

Self-gaslighting is subtle yet powerful. We internalize and perpetuate the very manipulative tactics we have experienced from others.

We distort our own perception of reality, downplay valid emotions, and question the legitimacy of our personal experiences and feelings. It’s a form of self-doubt and self-deception that undermines our confidence and destroys our ability to self-trust.

Past traumas, being raised in toxic relationships, constantly feeling rejected, not good enough, or deflected cause us to try and create safety – even if it is just in our mind – and self-gaslighting becomes our normal.

Self-gaslighting is an internal dialogue that invalidates our feelings or experiences. Unravelling the layers of self-gaslighting requires self-awareness, compassion, and a commitment to breaking free from the patterns that contribute to internal dissonance.

Personal Reflection:
Instead of acknowledging the toxic behaviour around me, I attempted to convince myself that maybe I was not as competent as I thought. The constant undermining started to erode self-confidence, and I found myself questioning my worth.

I had invited the narcissist into my life; I thought I could help them overcome their insecurities. “Look at my arrogance!” I began to find reasons why I was the problem.

I didn’t realize this was self-gaslighting or that I was instinctively trying to generate a sense of safety. “Maybe I am too sensitive, am I overreacting, or I always look for drama in my life? What am I doing to cause people close to me to act this way?” When we self-gaslight instead of addressing the individual event, we start the internal dialogue with the “always, people, never” statements. Self-blame and despair become the go-to!

I felt vulnerable and disrespected and instead of acknowledging this. I went to self-blame and believed it was my job to fix it. I unwittingly became a participant in my own self-gaslighting narrative.

Rather than recognizing the external manipulation for what it was, I increased the blaming of myself. I couldn’t find a solution; therefore, I was to blame. “They can’t help themselves; they’re struggling with their emotions, they don’t realize how hurtful they’re being.” I altered my perception of reality to align with the gaslighter’s version.

I started to internalize every word they said and these incidents gradually had me shell-shocked and doubting my own abilities and worth.

My self-perception was changing and I couldn’t see it; doubt replaced confidence. Breaking free from self-gaslighting involves recognizing these thought patterns, challenging them, and seeking external validation.
I need someone to reassure me that I wasn’t to blame. I needed support to regain clarity.

I needed to voice what had occurred not through the filter of self-blame but with a sense of classifying what had happened. Being honest about it enabled me to recognize my reactions to what had occurred instead of being fixated on just the emotions entwined with the reactions.

Being objective is a crucial step in reclaiming your self-worth and dismantling the internalized narratives that perpetuate self-doubt.

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Gaslighting destroys our self-confidence and self-validation repairs it!

The Struggle to Validate:

The journey to self-validation is not always smooth. The struggle lies in overcoming self-imposed judgments, societal expectations, and the fear of appearing vulnerable.
Many of us are conditioned to believe that expressing our emotions is a sign of weakness, leading to a constant battle with our inner selves.
We must first be willing to be honest about our feelings and give them a voice, even if it is just to the one in the mirror.
We struggle when we deny our reality! We prolong suffering when we are unable to accept our feelings are communication from within.

For many, the struggle for validation can become an obsession of wanting the narcissists to validate our observations and feelings. But this is not part of the narcissistic jive! Their validation is a manipulative tool and even if given, it is taken back, generally in the next sentence uttered!
The truth will be ignored, invalidated and refuted with the agenda to mock or manipulate us! Accepting this about the narcissist is difficult but essential; “we can’t get blood out of a stone”, and no one gets the truth in its purity from a narcissist.

Gaslighting and Emotional Manipulation:

In the realm of emotions, gaslighting is a dark force that undermines our sense of self.
Gaslighters manipulate our reality, making us doubt our own emotions and experiences.
Recognizing these tactics is crucial in maintaining emotional well-being. When doubt creeps in – check facts and acknowledge them as undebatable facts. The narcissist reject reality but we must never align with the deception.

Spotting the Signs:
Gaslighting often starts subtly, with phrases like, “You’re overreacting” or “You’re too sensitive.” These seemingly harmless comments can snowball into a web of self-doubt, making it challenging to trust our own feelings.
Recognize them as rude comments not a personal analysis of you! Then identify the motive behind them; what is the narcissist attempting to avoid.
Don’t try to prove to them what you’re observing; that’s an invitation to ride their merry-go-round of deception. But do validate it to yourself; this will enable you to observe the antics with clear vision.

Building Emotional Resilience:

Developing emotional resilience is akin to fortifying ourselves against life’s storms. It involves acknowledging our vulnerabilities, understanding our emotional triggers, and actively working towards self-acceptance. You no longer need their validation because you seek your own.
You’ll feel the strength of your integrity when you begin to validate yourself. In moments of confusion and despair anchor to a fact they disputed but you have clarity about. This will remind you of their willingness to be deceptive and enables you to devalue their words and actions because they don’t see you, they see prey!

Practical Strategies:

Mindfulness Practices: Engaging in mindfulness activities, such as honest self-reflection, meditation, or journaling, allows yourself to observe your emotions without judgment.
Cultivating Supportive Relationships: Surrounding yourself with individuals who validate your feelings and offer support. This will strengthen your emotional resilience.
Pro-tip: make sure you talk about other things – movies, music, or books – you don’t want to become stuck analysing your history; let life move you forward. Debrief when needed but not as a compulsive habit.
Seeking Professional Guidance: Therapeutic interventions provide a structured space for exploring and validating complex emotions. You may need an impartial umpire, so your unresolved emotions don’t take your steering wheel.

Personal Reflection:
During any challenging phase, I turned to the power of self-reflection, and learning how to be honest with yourself is easier said and done. It was through moments of self-reflection that I realized the power of validating my own experiences.
The skill of being self-reflective and the opportunity to have honest conversations – debriefing with someone trustworthy – became pillars of my emotional resilience, helping me weather subsequent storms with newfound strength.

Relationships and Validation:

In the intricate dance of relationships, validation becomes the melody that harmonizes our connections. Whether in friendships, family bonds, or romantic relationships, acknowledging each other’s emotions fosters a sense of security and strengthens the foundation of trust.
The jive of narcissism and gaslighting destroys trust but never allows it to remain the block to self-trust and your ability to dance with another.

The Dance of Validation:

Active Listening: Taking the time to truly listen to our loved ones without judgment creates a space for mutual validation.
Expressing Gratitude: Simple expressions of gratitude for the support and understanding shared during challenging times strengthen the bond between individuals. Value the bond with those you are grateful for!
Validating Differences: Embracing the uniqueness of each person’s emotional experience. Acceptance of our uniqueness and never compare your life with another.

Surviving Narcissism, Gaslighting, and Validating Our Awareness, Feelings, and Worth:

Surviving narcissism and gaslighting is a unique challenge that requires a deep commitment to self-awareness and emotional validation.

Narcissists often thrive on invalidating the emotions and worth of those around them, leaving a trail of confusion and self-doubt.

Healing after narcissism takes time and effort, but you are worth it!

Empowering Ourselves:

Recognizing Narcissistic Behaviour: Understanding the traits of narcissism is the first step toward protecting our emotional well-being.

Constant criticism, projection of insecurities, and a lack of empathy are telltale signs.

Validating Our Feelings

Self-Awareness: Trusting our gut feelings and acknowledging the impact of narcissistic behaviour on our emotions is crucial.

Self-awareness becomes our shield against manipulation.

Affirming Our Worth: In the face of constant invalidation, affirming our self-worth becomes an act of defiance. Seeking validation from within and surrounding ourselves with a support system that understands our journey is paramount.

Personal Reflection:

Having encountered narcissistic behaviour and gaslighting in close relationships, I learned the hard way that self-validation is a powerful tool against manipulation.
Recognizing the signs allowed me to protect my emotional well-being and disengage from toxic relationships.
Affirming my worth became a daily practice, reinforcing the understanding that my emotions and experiences are valid.
Most people who haven’t experienced long-term narcissism think the answers to the challenges are easy. Leave them, get away from them, get a new job, but that’s not always the case; some are family members, part of our financial security, believed inescapable.
Each person’s story is unique, and the challenges may differ, but the reality is healing or surviving narcissism is complex. Get informed and trust you deserve peace.

In conclusion the tapestry of life, weave a story of our feelings and emotions. Resilience, growth, and self-discovery are born through us being self-reflective.
Validating our own feelings and extending this validation to others forms the foundation upon which we build emotional well-being.
As we navigate life’s storms, let us remember that embracing our emotions and seeking validation from supportive people or those who have experienced similar is not a sign of weakness but a testament to our strength and willingness to nurture our authenticity.

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068-Beyond Addiction Hardship to Inner Paradise! CHRIS THRALL

Thriving Through Transformation: Chris Thrall’s Inspiring True Stories of Overcoming Adversity !

🌟 Dive into an uplifting podcast for personal transformation, as this episode of the Spiritual Explorer with host Lorraine Nilon follows an  inspirational true story. 

Join us as we illuminate the incredible true stories of overcoming adversity of Chris Thrall, former Royal Marines commando turned author, speaker, and spiritual explorer. This show is a beacon of inspiration, offering a unique blend of motivation, resilience, and self-discovery.

Key Highlights because this isn’t another addiction recovery podcast, this is a Inspirational true story of childhood abuse, and a reminder that not everyone’s childhood is referred to as the good old days. Chris very open about his veteran CPTSD and the steps he took to overcome adversity:

1. From Military Service to Spiritual Awakening:
– Explore Chris Thrall’s dynamic and inspirational true story, from Royal Marines to navigating gangland and drugs.
– Uncover the powerful transformation that led him towards spiritual awakening and profound self-discovery.

2. Books : (AMAZON)  “Eating Smoke” and “Forty Nights“:
– Delve into Chris’s gripping memoir, “Eating Smoke,” recounting his tumultuous experiences in Hong Kong’s drug trade.
– Discover the sequel, “Forty Nights,” where Chris shares his journey of recovery and spiritual enlightenment.

 These books are not just stories; they’re blueprints for resilience, redemption, and personal growth.

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3. Personal Transformation Advocacy and Mental Well-being:
– Chris Thrall’s commitment to open and honest discussions on drug addiction is a cornerstone of this episode.
– Gain valuable insights into mental well-being, veterans’ challenges, and breaking down societal stigmas.

4. Why You Should Tune In:
– 🚀 Be inspired by Chris’s remarkable self-transformation and triumph over adversity.
– 🎙️ Immerse yourself in a positive, engaging conversation that transcends life’s challenges.
– 📘 Explore the profound messages in Chris Thrall’s books and discover the strength within to thrive through transformation.

Conclusion:
Don’t miss this uplifting episode on the Spiritual Explorer Podcast, where resilience meets spiritual growth. Chris Thrall’s inspirational true story is not just about overcoming adversity; it’s a celebration of the human spirit’s incredible capacity for personal transformation. Tune in, be inspired!

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Sage advice: Be proud of your experiences! From Chris Thrall the man with a thousand inspiring true stories of overcoming adversity!

Addiction Recovery podcast that leads with inspiring stories of overcoming adversity!

Journaling For Personal Growth!

 

YouTube-FLIP THE BOOK – is a short video (3.03 mins). It is an excerpt of this interview.💫💫Flip the Book has journal prompts!! 
💫Use the Self-Reflective Questions as journal prompts, as a point for quiet self-contemplation or as a conversation starters with your friends.
💫FLIP THE BOOK is an intuitive and self-reflective discussion that is both revealing and is full of philosophical questions and answers. We learn a lot from other people’s experiences and perception.
💫FIND OUT WHAT you resonate with and explore why it touches your soul?
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Journaling for personal transformation.

 

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👁✍️👁 EP 68: Beyond Addiction Hardship to Inner Paradise! CHRIS THRALL
✍️👁CHRIS THRALL – Author of Eating Smoke and Forty Nights

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You’ll be surprised at what a session with me reveals. I take on a limited number of clients and improvement in self-awareness is inevitable after a session. I pride myself on my ability to help you understand yourself better.

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4 Best Personal Transformation Approach to Life!

4 minute read…What is the Best Personal Transformation Approach to Life?

Personal transformation is a profound and often challenging journey that shapes our identities and perspectives. In a recent podcast episode featuring an insightful conversation with Chris Thrall, the theme of personal transformation approach to life takes centre stage.

Chris Thrall, a seasoned adventurer and motivational speaker, encourages us to “Be proud of your experiences!”

Let’s delve into the essence of personal transformation, drawing inspiration from the wisdom shared.

Personal transformation is where individuals evolve emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. It’s a process of positive change that often involves embracing new perspectives, learning from experiences, and developing a deeper understanding of oneself, ultimately leading to a more fulfilled and purposeful life. This also encompasses spirituality greatly.

Spirituality is a process of transformation, expanding our awareness of self, origins, and the world we experience. The stepping-stone of your evolutionary journey creates a unique path, and we must honour the past, present, and future of our soul’s journey.

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Best Personal Transformation start with the willingness to be honest!

These four best personal transformation approaches to life are a robust foundation for any evolving soul. They are reference points to aid the navigation of challenges, cultivation of resilience, and sustaining meaningful personal transformation.

 

  1. Understanding Personal Transformation Steps Is A Dynamic Process!

 

At its core, personal transformation is a dynamic and ongoing process that involves self-discovery, growth, and adaptation.

Self-discovery requires becoming aware of oneself, stripping away denial to truly see the true essence of our being.

Growth involves turning observations into actionable wisdom.

Adaptation is crucial, as there will be a temptation to revert to the familiar. Vigilantly nurturing ourselves is essential for the transformation to become our new normal.

Our personal journeys are multifaceted. We never know what is around the corner and life throws us the unexpected. Personal transformation isn’t a one-time event but a continuous evolution fuelled by life experiences, challenges, and the willingness to embrace change.

Accepting the dynamism of life enables us to be present and aware! Personal transformation steps occur as your self-awareness expands!

 

  1. Overcoming Self-Destructive Behaviour.

 

Personal transformations challenges us to address how we treat ourselves. It is essential for self-awareness to grow. Overcoming self-destructive thoughts and behaviors requires expanding self-awareness. This sounds simple but most of us don’t acknowledge the start of our self-destructive patterns only the result. The sooner we recognise our decisions trajectories, the quicker we can adapt and be the creator of change.  

Recognizing patterns leading to self-destruction and being truthful with ourselves is the source of resilience. This truthfulness becomes a beacon of hope, inspiring us to confront inner demons and emerge stronger on the other side.

Transformation requires understanding the reality of our experiences to create new, wisdom-driven life experiences.

 

  1. Accepting The Past: A Gateway To Personal Transformation.

 

Accepting the past as a learning experience is fundamental. Embracing our past, not as a collection of regrets but as a reservoir of invaluable lessons, is liberating.

Reframing the past as a classroom rather than a courtroom empowers us to grow and evolve. Acceptance without self-persecution becomes a transformative tool, enabling us to move forward with newfound wisdom, resilience, and an unwavering commitment to continual self-improvement.

 

  1. Embracing Vulnerability and Authenticity.

 

True personal transformation involves shedding layers of pretense and embracing vulnerability. Vulnerability is courage! It involves the deliberate act of shedding the protective armour that conceals our authentic selves. This process necessitates the embracement of self-honesty, a crucial step in allowing the armour to gradually dissipate.

In embracing vulnerability, we unlock the power to connect deeply with ourselves and others. Our self-honesty cultivates resilience, creating space to rejuvenate our relationship with authenticity.

The courage to be authentic, even in the face of judgment, becomes a transformative act in itself.

 

In Conclusion: “Be Proud of Your Experiences”: A Mantra for Empowerment.

 

Personal transformation is a multifaceted journey demanding self-reflection, resilience, and a willingness to embrace change. We can all embark on a journey of self-discovery, proudly owning our experiences and emerging stronger, wiser, and more authentic than ever before.

Chris Thrall’s empowering quote encapsulates the essence of the conversation, serving as a rallying cry for individuals to take pride in their unique journeys. This mantra fosters a sense of empowerment, encouraging individuals to reclaim their narratives and find strength in their resilience. Celebrate the transformative process, remembering that each step forward is a victory, and every experience, no matter how challenging, contributes to the tapestry of our personal growth.

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 Lorraine Nilon Quoted in

The Global Quagmire Child Sexual and Child Pornography
National Law University – Lucknow – Indian

Lorraine Nilon,  has bravely confronted the harrowing issue of childhood trauma of sexual abuse in her compelling book, “Breaking Free from the Chains of Silence.”

Nilon’s insightful perspective on this grave matter of child abuse caught the attention of esteemed publications, including her noteworthy inclusion in “The Global Quagmire: Child Sexual Abuse and Child Pornography” by the National Law University in Lucknow, India.

Her impactful words echo through the pages, shedding light on the urgent need for awareness and action to address the global epidemic of child sexual abuse exploitation. Nilon’s unwavering commitment to breaking the silence surrounding such atrocities serves as a beacon of hope in the pursuit of justice and protection for vulnerable children worldwide.

 

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Another Lorraine Nilon  Abuse Quote: Abuse is never contained to a present moment, it lingers across a person’s lifetime and has pervasive long-term ramifications. ― Lorraine Nilon, Breaking Free From the Chains of Silence: A respectful exploration into the ramifications of Paedophilic abuse

 

The 20 Australian Personal Development Experts and Coaches to Work With in 2022-Lorraine Nilon

The 20 Australian Personal Development Experts and Coaches to Work With in 2022

by News Desk  October 13, 2021 in Featured

Australian Personal Development Experts and Coaches

“Being open to personal development is what allows us to become the best versions of ourselves. It’s not something that can readily be achieved in a couple of hours, but rather a lifelong process built up from constantly assessing life goals and values, and acquiring skills that allow us to thrive both mentally and physically.” 

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Lorraine Nilon Self-Development Expert & Coach

 

Lorraine has a special interest in emotional trauma recovery,  managing and understanding our emotions and recognizing there is purpose to our life experiences.

Her approach to life is from a very grounded spirituality. Spiritual life coaching with integrity and authenticity! 

She classes understanding ourselves as spiritual and important to our emotional wellbeing.

She focuses on helping clients walk towards emotional and spiritual wellness by helping them address the root of their issues and to celebrate their own individuality. There is no one size fits all approach. Lorraine assist you to lean into the areas of your life, beliefs, and fears that cause you to be stuck! 

Lorraine expertise in self-reflection provide a life coaching services with a difference as she brings her skills as a soul-intuitive® helping clients with the missing pieces!

Overcoming roadblocks, identifying soul-purpose and establishing the awareness  to reach spiritual growth and self-discovery requires direction and Lorraine is a tour guide that highlights what to explore!

 

Winner sticker for 2023 Indie Reader Awards for Lorraine Nilon.

IRDA Winning Author Lorraine Nilon

IRDA WINNING SELF-HELP AUTHOR LORRAINE NILON: Inspirational/Spiritual book award.

I was very excited to get this news!!! I enjoyed receiving this!!

Congratulations! It is our pleasure to inform you that your book won in the non-fiction Inspirational/ Spiritual category for the 2023 IRDAs!

“The books that won the IRDAs this year are not simply great indie books; they are great books, period.”

On Thursday June 1st, IndieReader, one of the original review services for self, hybrid and independently published authors, announced the winners of the twelfth annual IR Discovery Awards (IRDAs) for 2023. Spirituality, Evolution & Awakened Consciousness by Lorraine Nilon won in the Inspirational/Spiritual category.

Book cover (lady standing on a bridge reaching for the heavens) of Lorraine Nilon self-help authors book with winner of 2023 India Reader Discovery Award - book review

IndieReader launched the IRDAs in 2011 to help notable indie authors receive the attention of top publishing professionals, with the goal of reaching more readers. Noted Amy Edelman, author and founder of IR,

We hope that our efforts via the IRDAs ensure that they receive attention from the people who matter most. Potential readers.”

Past and present sponsors for the IRDAs include Amazon, Reedsy, Smith Publicity and NY-based literary agents Dystel, Goderich & Bourret. Judges have included publishers (from Penguin Group USA and Simon & Schuster), agents (from ICM, Dystel), publicists (from Smith Publicity), and bloggers (from GoodeReader).

Spirituality, Evolution & Awakened Consciousness – Getting Real About Soul Maturity and Spiritual Growth was the winner in the Inspirational/Spiritual category of the 2023 IndieReader Discovery Awards, where undiscovered talent meets people with the power to make a difference.

(Amazon) Spirituality, Evolution and Awakened Consciousness:  https://geni.us/vEhN

Following find an interview with author Lorraine Nilon.

What is the name of the book and when was it published?

Spirituality, Evolution & Awakened Consciousness – Getting Real About Soul Maturity and Spiritual Growth. Published -2021

What’s the book’s first line?

To understand the true meaning of spirituality, evolution and awakened consciousness, we have to acknowledge the complexity of who we are.

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https://indiereader.com/2023/06/irda-winning-author-lorraine-nilon-i-feel-being-an-author-is-part-of-my-soul-purpose/

Author and Writers Interview – Awesome Gang: Lorraine Nilon

Interview With Self-Help Author: LORRAINE NILON

Excerpt from
AWESOME GANG Self-Help Author Interview

Tell us about yourself and how many books you have written.
The best way to describe myself is busy. I love what I do, and never have enough hours in the day to do it. However, I do consciously value my down time catching up with family and friends. I believe life has to have balance. My children have grown and left the nest, and I am embracing the next stage of my life.

Life is like a book and you experience different chapters. Some chapters are a reconnaissance phase building awareness, others have great upheaval and there are some chapter that move you to the next section, opening up to new chapters that allow the tapestry of wisdom gathered, to shine. I live knowing life is an ever-evolving event.

Human connection is important to me and I love to engage in honest conversations. I am passionate about philosophy, personal growth and awakening to our authentic selves. I value being self-reflective and I enjoy participating in the exploration of the reality of life on all levels, from the exquisiteness of our soul truth and to the depths of our emotional baggage.

I find people intriguing, and respect our lives as soul journeys. This is evident in the 3 books I have written.

Spirituality, Evolution and Awakened Consciousness – Getting real about soul maturity and spiritual growth.
Hidden within ourselves are answers to our own questions! It is a book that assists you to tap into our own wisdom. This book is an experience, you’ll laugh, cry, get frustrated, feel relieved and celebrate your Aha moments. This inspiring book arms you with the essential tools needed to develop emotional maturity and spiritual growth.

Packed with wisdom, stories and questions that lead you on a journey of self-discovery, encouraging you to step off the merry-go-round of harsh self-judgement and awaken to your significance.

Your insight & Awareness Book – Your life is an expedition to discover the truth of yourself.
Designed to be a concept finder so you can delve deep into the issues surrounding your self-awareness and assists you to acknowledge what gets in the way of self-acceptance. You randomly flip open the book and where ever your eyes land, read as little or as much as you like and then contemplate what has been highlighted for you.

Breaking Free from the Chains of Silence – A respectful exploration into the ramifications of abuse hidden behind closed doors.
This book resulted from a twelve-year exploration into the true ramifications of childhood sexual abuse. In my Soul Intuitive®-Life Coaching sessions I started to work with countless childhood abuse victims who endeavored to become emotionally healthy survivors and thrivers.

This type of abuse is not my history and I was educated by victims of abuse. Their honesty allowed me the privilege to document the stored energy, beliefs, fears and misconceptions that keep many victims struggling with life.

It is a difficult book to read because it is a difficult subject. However, recovery doesn’t occur without an honest and respectful exploration into what needs to be healed to feel whole. An invaluable resource for victims of any type of abuse or child protection advocates.

What is the name of your latest book and what inspired it?

Do you have any unusual writing habits?

What authors, or books have influenced you?

 

To read the rest of the interview: AWESOME GANG Author Interview

International Psychic Directory- man standing on cover- book reviews for Lorraine Nilon's Books

International Psychic Directory-Book review

Lorraine Nilon's Your Insight & Awareness Book and Breing Free from the Chains of Silence - with Book review form International Psychic Directory

NEW COVER for Breaking Free From the Chains of Silence.

a childhood abused man looking from a cave to emotional freedom represented by a beautiful landscape- Image of Lorraine Nilon's Breaking Free from the Chains of Silence - recovering from childhood abuse                                            Your Insight & Awareness Book - Lorraine Nilon- lady walking out of a labyrinth

Inner Self magazine cover - photo Neale Donald Walsch and a sunset with man with charka on his body

Inner Self magazine Book review

Author Lorraine Nilon - Your Insight & Awareness Book reviewed by Inner Self Magazine

Review: Your Insight & Awareness Book